| For the person who hears the problem:
An unwarranted advice is considered a nag.
Not everybody wants your advice when they grouse.
This is something i always forget.
I damn kaypoh.
Sometimes we just need to vent.
Sometimes we just need someone to acknowledge that we have similar worries and problems.
Sometimes, we just do not want to be told that we are weak.
Sometimes i should not bother with the advice.
It is indeed hard to withold judgement in a conversation or discussion.
Am i really listening to my friend?
Is he asking for advice, or is he not?
For the person who speaks of the problem:
An advice given is meant to help.
It can be taken as a different viewpoint.
It can be ignored as unwarranted nagging.
But from a close friend, the intention should never be in doubt.
Sometimes we really want to help, but we can't.
Sometimes we get frustrated because you trapped yourself in the cycle.
Sometimes you know we're right, but you just can't seem to budge yourself out.
Sometimes you know that we know.
Are you just grousing to vent, or is it really a cry for help?
You hear me, but are you listening?
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| And yes, once again i was out of action here for rather a while.
Nope, still alive. Sorry to disappoint some of you.
Anyway, managed to wrestle and survive through the entire AYG period.
I seem to have a love-hate relationship with this thing.
I hate doing it. Yet, i loved the experience.
And of course with my track record of taking photos, there's nothing much to show,
EXCEPT....
Mascots (Frasia) and Medals for the athletes
 
No prizes for guessing what my job was in the games. It was similar to being a bouncer
Immediately after, i had to launch into the SYF presentations.
Nothing much to report there, been doing it for 3 years.
EXCEPT, some new stuff i got to see.
Now kids, NEVER NEVER store your instruments this way...
And some new guzheng designs to achieve notes higher and lower than the regular 21-stringed version:
 
And amidst all these, have to find time to visit my new pad.
Renos are done. As in done done.
Shelves are in, curtains are up, lights and fans fixed, bedframes built.
Now i can move in. After 17th July.
( Photos of new pad )- Mood:relaxed
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| Not the most enjoyable experience "volunteering" for this.
But certainly learned tons, about others, about the work, and about myself.
Generally people are nice and everyone is trying to get the whole show going.
But, some nonsense behaviour is still observed.
Just isolated examples of athletes who are uncooperativeness and rude.
All that talk about sportsmanship, but they seem to extend courtesy only to fellow athletes, and treat the workforce like dirt.
It is however still very isolated cases, because...
The real pain in the butt is the ones from media.
These bunch are the real pain in the ass.
They crowd all over the venue, interrupt your flow, and of course, aren't the most polite people around.
But, all being said and done, i'm still enjoying me-self.
Ask me how i am feeling again only after 17th July.
=)
- Mood:content
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| I don't fucking care what's the big deal about your event.
Neither do i care what fucking national-level council you are from.
You screwed up. And now you expect students to cover for your mistakes.
You bunch of ball-less, gut-less, useless good-for-nothing pricks deserve to die in a vat of boiling oil, bubbling with all the mess you've created.
Fuck fuck fucking fuck! Fuck....
Fuck.
There, i've said it.
Now i can sleep. - Mood:pissed off
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| Somebody shared with me today that we all should know the kind of future we are going to have by looking at the present that we are in.
What do you think?
SO do you know what future you are going to have eventually? - Mood:content
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| REMAKING OUR HEARTLANDS
Realise Rejuvenate Regenerate Redundant
Lift Upgrading Thank goodness i am leaving soon. - Mood:blah
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| This came up in a conversation today.
The points are re-capped for your easy reference.
I don't claim to be some guru.
But got some experiences to share lah.
1) In bio terms, a relationship has to be SYMBIOTIC and not PARASITIC
Do you help each other to be a better person? Do you also make each other's lives richer?
2) There is no PERFECT. But your other half could be just perfectly fine for you.
Comparison is only useful if you are shopping for fruit in the market, not when choosing partners.
3) Learn to remember. Write a blog, keep a diary, blab it over TWIT-er... whatever mode. Always remember the reasons why you love your partner, not why you dislike him/her/it.
4) Finding common topics for day to day conversation might be difficult. For beginners, develop common interests and hobbies. Intermediate level, develop common life goals. For the real experts, develop common value systems and philosophies. - Mood:bored
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| 2009 January 9 2346hrs
Same work in the day.
Same dinner at night.
But at least i talked to a different person tonight.
I hope the tourist found her way.
At least there's one less lost soul tonight.
The river heard me cry tonight.
She asked me to join her again tomorrow night.
Perhaps i should.
I've got nothing planned anyway.
When you feel lonely, who do you go to?
I shall join my river tomorrow night.
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| 2009 January 6 2202hrs
Dear Boy in Winter,
The moon cannot join the stars as they are from different backgrounds.
The rich cannot understand the the hunger of the poor.
Those with sight cannot see the darkness of the blind.
I can see why you appreciate the order.
Perhaps the boy in winter lives in winter knowing that spring is just round the corner.
Indeed every heart has a choice.
But perhaps the choices my heart can see are only those that offers no more than solitude and sense of yearning.
Anyway, thank you for the little note.
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Dear Girl-Lost-In-The-Wind,
You have 3 responses to your recent post.
Who knows, one of them might just be your SOULMATE?
Your friendly admin,
soulmatessearchER
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2009 January 5 0035hrs
Hi GLITW,
What's up lady?
You sound like a lonely girl.
What say you and I meet up for coffee and I help you to remove that pang of lonliness?
Fun-Seeker
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2009 January 5 0011hrs
Dear Girl-Lost-In-The-Wind
Are you as lonely as I am?
The world's indeed a desolate place.
Let's meet up soon.
Let the pain of death awaken us from the bland of daily drivel.
The Crow
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2009 January 4 2345hrs
Hi,
The stars may have each other as friends, but that does not mean that the moon cannot join them.
The moon does not have to hide herself.
In a world full of uncertainty, its good that some things are still in order.
I like the idea of Summer after Spring. Don't you?
Every lonely heart has a choice. None is ever forced to.
And a desert might be less desolate with the presence of a samaritan.
Boy In Winter
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